Social Media

This is rather controversial for me to speak about,

Considering:
1) I am from the field of Marketing
2) I am such an active social media user

















However, since a few days I have been dwelling about the repercussions of social media, the usage of social media in current times and the impact it has on our lives, and it's got me thinking.

Let's start with a couple of confessions:

1) I am always connected
2) I find it hard to stay away from my phone for more than 30 minutes
3) My life involves a lot of sharing
4) I only share the highlights of my life (Read: The talk-worthy moments)
5) I do not share how down I typically feel on Sunday afternoons (Read: Sunday blues)
6) I share the relationships I want to celebrate
7) I do not celebrate the relationships I am not proud of being in
8) I only upload my nicest looking pictures on facebook (probably 2 out of 100)
9) My facebook life is a  strategically selected facade of the highlights of my real life

That was difficult to accept... but that makes me think.

I wonder whether we're currently living 2 lives at one time.
One,which is raw vulnerable, real and imperfect and the other that is glossy, triumphant and picture perfect?

 Our popularity is based on the number of likes our pictures receive.
Let's face the fact, if we do not cross the 11-like mark on instagram, or the 100-like mark on our facebook profile picture  most of us feel like shit. The whole point of sharing is to get people to know. We also don't remember most birthdays anymore. Why would we? We have Social Media to remind us.

I was speaking to a friend today and I told him that I am away from home and so I find a lot of happiness in writing wall posts for close friends on my social media platform. I think it makes them feel special. He asked why? I couldn't help thinking that it was so that the whole world knew how special they were. He said, don't you think they'll feel even more special if you sent them a personal message telling them how special they were. I thought he was right but I wasn't sure whether that was the reality in society.

While it's difficult to admit, research shows that 87% of social media users (irrespective of their sharing habits) base their idea of an ideal body image, skin tone, dressing sense, personality and humor based on social media influencers in their circle. That is why "stalking" is so prevalent. We stalk those who we aspire to be, envy, want to be friends with, want to be romantically linked to, want to get to know better -  just to know the highlights of their life.

Ideal Self vs Actual Self

In my consumer insight class earlier this year, we learned about "Ideal self" and "Actual self" and this gets me thinking about Social Media. Maybe Social media is just an extension of our ideal self, the self we want to be but not necessarily are, the self we want to show the world, the humor we want to project, the contouring that pumps up the high cheek bones, the wine drinking habits and the super social group of friends.

AND THIS

immediately got me thinking about the success of Humans of New York. They were real stories from real people! Such a breath of fresh air because  they involved so many real emotions. We suddenly realized there was a world beyond our own that involved struggle, joys, relationships and meaningful sharing. There were refugees losing their children, there were people who never gave up on their dreams but still didn't succeed, there were daughters reuniting with their fathers at the age of 50 and children protecting the goat their father brought to slaughter. Suddenly we were seeing reality. These posts went viral. There was empathy, sympathy and relatability coming from every corner of the world in the form of 35000 shares per post.


This leaves me with a parting thought: I am not a cynic and I certainly do not disapprove of social media. But maybe it's time to step back and regroup our energies. Maybe it's time to use social media not to be insecure or spread insecurity, to judge your popularity or body image but to use its potential to provide a greater good to our social circle. A platform to boost egos, better body images, celebrate triumphs and obviously be in touch. I haven't figured that out yet but when I put my marketing cap back on I know the power of Social Media and I know its possible. And while we do all of that, maybe live a real life without being consumed by social media, without being connected all the time and without feeling the urge to check our phones all the time (Read: Guilty) 

Maybe live a life where we are consumed in the real present and not the digital present, where we click pictures to save memories and not see if it's share worthy and where life does not depend on what others think about it.



I am still confused about how I feel about this phenomenon. But I do feel something strong and I know it has to do with a  huge change in the way we use this platform.

Tonight, I will sleep without worrying about the number of likes/views/comments this post receives but about the amount of lives it affects.